It’s not unusual for us at times to think we’re doing worse than we actually are. Yes some of us are just pessimistic, but progress especially after coming out of a toxic relationship can also be hard to see sometimes unless you’re looking in the right places for it.

If you feel like you’re working hard with little to show for it, you’re probably mistaken. It’s likely that you’re doing a lot better than you think!

Consider these positive signs:

You learn the lesson that each mistake and failure provide. If you can learn something from failures and mistakes, it won’t take long before you’re incredibly successful in moving on and forward with your life.

  • Most people repeat their errors over and over, whether it’s overspending or choosing a partner. We all have a strong tendency to repeat our behaviors. But you absolutely can choose to act differently than you did the last time you were in a similar situation!

You spend your time wisely. Spend your time well and good things generally will happen. Spend your time poorly and your life, more often than not, will be a train wreck.

  • When deciding what you’re going to do next, ask yourself what the best use of your time would be. Then do it!

You’re making regular progress. Consistent progress is a great sign. Even if you feel like you’re lightyears from your goal, what you need is regular progress. Let’s use weight loss as an example.  I had been trying to lose weight following my disastrous relationship and hadn’t lost a single pound until I decided progress was better than no progress. Even a pound of weight loss each month is meaningful over a period of time, so don’t lose heart.

You’re making regular progress. Consistent progress is a great sign. Even if you feel like you’re lightyears from your goal, what you need is regular progress. Let’s use weight loss as an example.  I had been trying to lose weight following my disastrous relationship and hadn’t lost a single pound until I decided progress was better than no progress. Even a pound of weight loss each month is meaningful over a period of time, so don’t lose heart.

You’re consistent in your efforts. Successful people put in some work on a daily basis. Success isn’t about working really hard for a day here and there, honestly, I learned the hard way.

  • Being consistent in your efforts also means that you’re sticking to your goals. Working for a week on one goal and then changing your mind and working on something else is a path to nowhere, trust me I’ve been there. Many times!

You’re not alone. There are people that are truly alone in the world. If you’re not alone, you’re doing better than many others. But I also want to point out a common issue and that is people who over give. I was, and still can be an over giver, and oftentimes we expect those around us to understand our needs, just as we understand theirs. But we must know our own needs and how to communicate them to others, then others are in a better position to help us and more often than not, they do-we are not alone

You’re optimistic. When you’re optimistic, there’s hope. When you’re optimistic, you’ll take action.

  • Conversely, when your expectations are low, you quickly become stuck, because you believe your efforts will be a waste of time.

You’re determined. Commitment is a great sign that you’re going places. Good things happen when you’re determined.

You’re not worried about the opinions of others. If you care too much about what others think, you’ll prefer to play it safe, and you won’t do anything significant. You can leave them and their opinions in the dust behind you!

You have a dry, warm place to sleep. If you’ve ever had to go without this, you know how nice this is. If you don’t have to deal with this situation, then you’re doing better than you think.

You have an income. A steady income is a great thing. Many people either can’t find work or are unable to maintain employment. Even if you’re earning less than you’d like, it’s a lot better than earning nothing at all.

You’re healthy. If you’re basically healthy, you have a huge leg up on a lot of people. Good health is a huge blessing.

Our society is easy in many ways and quite challenging in others. A high priority is placed on success, but there are other things that are also important. Friends, a warm bed, and an income are pretty relevant, too.

If you’re clear on what you’re trying to accomplish, and you’re spending your time wisely, you’re doing quite well. This really is true, even if the results haven’t revealed themselves yet. Have faith!

Marcia Hylton 31/12/2020

 

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